Over the last few months I have been working closely with Ellie to build my new box, ‘The Box of Calm’. This box is all about self-care, support and love for people who need a little pick me up. Just a little ‘I am thinking about you’ to help them through.
Ellie has battled with her mental health for a long time and bravely shared her story with me. With her in-put we created the ‘Calm cards’ with Debbie of ‘Spread it’, chose the chamomile based calming tea, ‘Dozy Girl’ by Bird & Blend, the beautiful calming candle ‘Blue Coral & Sea Salt’ by Half-Cut Candles, then last but definitely not least, we chose Soap & Hope’s calming Bath Salts. Together we think this is the perfect mix….. we hope you do too!
I asked Ellie how she felt about sharing her story with you here. Her reply, ‘If it helps just one person then it is so worth it’.
“I have always suffered with extreme high/low mood and my weight. At my heaviest I was over 17 stone. I was diagnosed with bipolar and although It was a bit of a shock to have a life long illness it felt amazing to have a name for why I would feel the way I did. The highs were scary sometimes I’d loose touch of reality but everything felt amazing and I would be so impulsive everyone around me couldn’t keep up. Then there’d the painful lows. Everything hurt I didn’t want to be on the planet and my heart would feel so sad. There would be no reason or trigger for it, it would just happen. Now I take meds to keep me stable and well. I know I will have to take them for the rest of my life, but they are now just a part of me. I would rather take meds and be the person I am now then the person who I am when I don’t take them.
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Unfortunately I suffered an ectopic pregnancy whilst in France in 2017. I almost died and lost a fallopian tube, this really impacted my mental health as I had always wanted to be a mum. Luckily I got pregnant quite quickly after. I was under a consultant through out my pregnancy and saw a mental health nurse. I was so terrified that my bipolar would effect my parenting. Luckily I had a lot of support and I have a very supportive partner.
I wouldn’t say being a mum with bipolar is a bad thing, if anything it has opened my eyes to creating a healthy, happy lifestyle for me and my family. When I speak to mum’s who don’t have mental health problems we still share all the same frustrations, sleep deprivation and worrying what on earth we are doing! If I could give anyone advice it would be to hold on. A day, a week, a month, a year. I promise you, you won’t be feeling how you do now – Storms don’t last forever.”
Thank you so much too Ellie who has had a big part to play in the creating of my new box – The Box of Calm. We really hope you love it.
“Capable of juggling two kids, two businesses, and organising Christmas a year in advance, yet completely incapable of buying a new razor, ever” Said my husband this morning after he discovered I had ‘borrowed’ his again…
The story of my life really. Relatable to most mums though, no? Looking after everyone else’s needs and my own are way down the list of priorities. Chris (that is my husband) is x-military, now a firefighter and train engineer. He is never at home. Ever. Therefore the kids, home, birthdays, Christmas, dogs, life in general is on me. Which is fine. Actually a dam sight easier than when he is at home interfering in my routine (sorry Chris).
He’s a good egg really.
I will probably buy him a pack of razor heads for Christmas……
My day starts with dragging Isabelle & Eddie out of bed for 7am. They would quite happily doze until 9 on a weekday (crack of dawn at weekends though, obviously). Feeding, changing, begging and bribing them out the house for 8.30am to start the school run. Once I have waved them off and dashed back to the car it begins. Usually I go to the office to pack overnight box orders if Mum hasn’t beaten me to it, walk the dogs, say hi to my parents (office is in their barn). Then shoots, deliveries, meetings, or what ever else I have chosen to cram in to my 4 child free hours. Then I pick up Eddie and I am mum again. Well, I try! Most often my morning carries on in to the afternoon and he happily watches Peppa, plays outside or just entertains himself for a few hours until we pick up Isabelle. Then it is bath, dinner and bed which is probably let’s be honest, the most exhausting time of day. Both tired and grumpy, actually all three of us are tired and grumpy by this point. When they finally call it a night it is back to work. Laptop out on the kitchen table, which is normally covered in stock, orders and basically the contents of my life. I must get through at least 15 cups of coffee a day. It is a necessity. I am buying myself a snazzy coffee machine for Christmas because well why the hell not. Lockdown 1 was the first time I had stopped in years. So many years! Do you know how many people I have spoken to have said the same. Mad.
The mum guilt is terrible. I book off Sundays every week for family. I don’t work then (until they are asleep)…….. I think the reality is my businesses are an extension of me. I work because I need to for me. Nothing else. I love it and thrive off being busy and creative. The time I spend with the kids is quality time, packed with fun and adventure to make up for the quantity of time I spend with them.
My parents are super hero’s. They are a second set of parents to my kids. They will have Eddie for a few hours in the afternoon so I can finish off jobs, Isabelle probably lives there as much as she does here. It works. The kids are thriving and happy and at the end of the day that is the most important thing. Though Eddie’s first sentence or string of words together was “Daddy Work, Mummy Work”…….
They will grow up (I hope) to see two parents who have a really good work ethic and see first hand that you can achieve anything you put your mind too. I mean if I can run a marathon anyone can!!!
Have a lovely day and thank you for reading my little of-load 🙂
Loui Legend was born with Treacher-Collins Syndrome. It was a complete surprise to everyone and had gone unnoticed through out his very normal pregnancy. He has some special adaptations to help him breathe and eat. But is just like any other 6 year old boy in every other way. He is so cheeky and is very fluent in sign language! I documented his day to day at the beginning of the year just to give everyone a little insight to this wonderful little boys world.
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After spending much of my 20’s in Australian Vineyards, visiting different wineries across the country every month, I found an appreciation for wine and how it is made. After returning home to Kent, local to many of the wineries, I thought why not try and book on a tour to discover some of Kent’s wineries that were right on our doorstep. With no luck of finding a local tour with transport, I visited all the of the wineries with my other half aka the designated driver. I realised there was a huge gap in the market for people wanting to visit the wineries and sample all of the wines without having the hassle of finding transport… And there so ‘Wine Tours of Kent’ came about.
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