The Box of Calm 2021 – Created with Ellie
Over the last few months I have been working closely with Ellie to build my new box, ‘The Box of Calm’. This box is all about self-care, support and love for people who need a little pick me up. Just a little ‘I am thinking about you’ to help them through.
Ellie has battled with her mental health for a long time and bravely shared her story with me. With her in-put we created the ‘Calm cards’ with Debbie of ‘Spread it’, chose the chamomile based calming tea, ‘Dozy Girl’ by Bird & Blend, the beautiful calming candle ‘Blue Coral & Sea Salt’ by Half-Cut Candles, then last but definitely not least, we chose Soap & Hope’s calming Bath Salts. Together we think this is the perfect mix….. we hope you do too!
I asked Ellie how she felt about sharing her story with you here. Her reply, ‘If it helps just one person then it is so worth it’.
“I have always suffered with extreme high/low mood and my weight. At my heaviest I was over 17 stone. I was diagnosed with bipolar and although It was a bit of a shock to have a life long illness it felt amazing to have a name for why I would feel the way I did. The highs were scary sometimes I’d loose touch of reality but everything felt amazing and I would be so impulsive everyone around me couldn’t keep up. Then there’d the painful lows. Everything hurt I didn’t want to be on the planet and my heart would feel so sad. There would be no reason or trigger for it, it would just happen. Now I take meds to keep me stable and well. I know I will have to take them for the rest of my life, but they are now just a part of me. I would rather take meds and be the person I am now then the person who I am when I don’t take them.
Image by ‘The Life Narrator’ – www.thelifenarrator.co.uk
Unfortunately I suffered an ectopic pregnancy whilst in France in 2017. I almost died and lost a fallopian tube, this really impacted my mental health as I had always wanted to be a mum. Luckily I got pregnant quite quickly after. I was under a consultant through out my pregnancy and saw a mental health nurse. I was so terrified that my bipolar would effect my parenting. Luckily I had a lot of support and I have a very supportive partner.
I wouldn’t say being a mum with bipolar is a bad thing, if anything it has opened my eyes to creating a healthy, happy lifestyle for me and my family. When I speak to mum’s who don’t have mental health problems we still share all the same frustrations, sleep deprivation and worrying what on earth we are doing! If I could give anyone advice it would be to hold on. A day, a week, a month, a year. I promise you, you won’t be feeling how you do now – Storms don’t last forever.”
Thank you so much too Ellie who has had a big part to play in the creating of my new box – The Box of Calm. We really hope you love it.
You can use the code ELLIE2021 at checkout to get £5 off your first Box of Calm in January.